MOM BULLY - have you ever come across them?

Hi Friends, welcome to my blog :)

Yes, from the title you know what i am going to discuss about! I recently had the misfortune to deal with a Mom Bully (Yes!!)  and the encounters i had with her inspired this post..so who are these Mom bullies - any guesses?

We generally associate bullying with school  and college stuff and we imagine of it as kids or adults screaming and yelling at each other..But i guess, a cold attitude and being mean and calculative towards your fellow mates also qualifies for bullying. So here i am talking about the moms who (sometimes unintentionally) falls in the latter category.

Its that 'MOM' here who thinks she rules over everything! She is very nasty and mean and if you do not follow her so called rules, then you better watch out..YOU ARE IN TROUBLE!!! so how do you identify these moms (so should i call them species here!) and tackle them ("karate moves" anyone? :))
Honestly, I am no expert in this and in my few years in to knowing other moms, i had come across various personalities of moms but this was my first encounter and i was totally taken aback!

I guess every mom encounters these species at places associated with kids like school, daycare, school gatherings etc.. You can choose to avoid,  ignore or stay away from them but they are definitely there.. so how do you save yourself when you come across one!

MOM BULLY SPOTTING!! 

You may be visiting your kids school mostly during open-houses if your are working mom like me or on daily pick up and drop trips and you will have definitely encountered this - she is the one who is often loud in the conversations, bragging about how she volunteers so much for the school and knows every thing and how all teachers are her friends (indirectly hinting, she can create trouble for your kid if you are not in compliance with her), basically to the point of being totally irritating. Specially more evident when you are having some conversation with your kids teacher and this MOM does not have any remorse or regret about placing herself right in front of you and cutting in to your conversation. WTF!  You don't know what to do and you are steaming mad at her and feel like pummel her head with something but cant coz you have to behave like a decent parent in front of all, so you smile and step back. So you just became a victim of Mom bullying!

In my case, i was extended an invite to be a part of school mom whats-app group - a great idea for mom from various backgrounds to get connected to each other..so young moms like me were pretty excited (definitely) to introduce each other and this is where the bully chips in -- citing the rules and regulations and all that blah blah about what should and what should not be done (without her permission). I am sure, many moms like me were pretty scared to even wish each other and just read the posts the bully feels like sharing - so here i guess, the main quality for the bully is to lounge around the school and catch up with other parents, plan to form a  social group and expand under control - Well, does sound good till now and very creative..... But as soon as moms start interacting with each other over their choice of topics, the insecurities of the bully seeps in..

If you so you 'hi' anybody, 'wish' anybody on birthday, its a SIN! yes guys its a SIN!!! coz it does not meet her criteria of etiquette's !!! Mom Bully goes a step ahead and probably enjoys a sadistic fulfillment from giving the rebel moms an earful for other moms also to see and follow!!

So what makes other moms stay with this bully - its peer pressure, fear of being isolated from the other moms, probably these little insecurities of not being perfect parent and trying to stick to the bully group is the only way they can know everything going around and make theirs kids perfect! Yes, sure may be! Some probably are immune to the bullying and they don't realize this and used to being dominated (its not strange for Indian woman being dominated around accepted as a part of the culture). And the bully totally feeds on these little insecurities of Moms.

I CAME ACROSS A BULLY-WHAT DO I DO NOW?

In my opinion, its totally worthless getting all worked up as i understand the bully feed on drama and the insecurities of other moms ..you can do nothing but feel sad about them and definitely do not want such negativity around you or your kids. Getting in to a verbal fight is the last thing you want as this will only make them more aggressive and you being sensible enough quietly withdraw..

Another way to deal is to own your own parenting - have a talk with teachers frequently, try to be around other sensible and nice moms willing to help. Teach your kids which attitudes are acceptable and how to tackle a bully when he too encounters any. Lastly accept, Parents need not be perfect! its OKAY if there are some goof ups in your parenting skills or you miss out on some kids school information, understand they are kids after all and let us not any bully rule you over and misguide you to stress yourself and your kids .

Guys, i would really like to hear if you have come across such Mom bullies and how did you handle them? Do you rebel or comply?? i would appreciate your valuable feedback !

My blog pictures are missing!

Hi friends, Thank you for visiting my blog!

If you are trying to read my old blogs, you will be seeing no pictures and replaced with a triangular minus sign. I don't know whats wrong or what changes have taken place recently in the blog but i am not able to retrieve these pictures..

I tried to check in to various forums for help and answers and just seem to understand that change to the Picassa settings have caused the pictures to disappear. I had my albums loaded on to picassa for long term storage but now i am left with no old pictures. Only saviors now is the Facebook pictures i have in store,

I do not want to delete my old blogs as they are my memories to the days so i will try to find the pictures wherever possible and try to edit the blogs and replace with fresh pictures. Let me see if this works or else i will have to re-post/re-publish the blogs again..

Sorry for the inconvenience you have to face! I will keep them updating regularly ! Do come back for more.. 

How to spend more quality time and bonding with Family

Hi Friends, Welcome to my blog!

Its been so long i was away from here ....i have always wanted to take time out and write something....some time out from slobbing ..so finally making it :)

First, i want to thank HIM for giving me a blessed family!

As you all know, i am a working mom, infact we are working parents to our now 8 years (soon to be 9 year old son). Work life in India is not so flexible and can get too stressful and hectic at times.

I am (like many other working parents, am sure) always feeling guilty about not spending enough time with my kid from our 5 days a week  9 to 5 job and whatever free time we have in hand on weekends just somehow flies away .... somewhere in the middle of the week we feel the same guilt again about not spending time with kids and assuring the coming weekend we will do...This cycle seems never ending..

I have already changed few jobs from my last blog just in search of that extra time i may find with my family zeroing on options closer to my home thereby reducing travel time specially the phase from age 4 to age 8 now which was when i moved to being a nuclear family..

My son is now 8 and all grown up and does not require as much attention as earlier years but still i look for that perfect quality time i can bond with him in his growing years. So to keep me motivated i read, browse many self help, family articles and other mommy blogs and just love their inputs and some way or other they help every mom take their suggestions and mould it in her own way to suit her family.. I also wanted to share my tips if this can help anyone and although  i am not a perfectionist and still looking or some more tips to always improve on..but these are definitely working for me.

Here are some of the most important little things i follow and continue to follow:

1) Ask for Help!

First and most important  -  this may also mean to some to employ a full time maid (we are in India, we are lucky, we don't have to pay a bomb to hire.. any middle class Indian can afford a maid and for various of activities). Since i am off -maid for now (long story ) and my son is very happy with his buddies in day care which leaves me the option of asking help from his Day Care teachers! My son is been in daycare since he was barely a year old, so this helped as well..

So yes, pl approach and ask for help but from one you can trust.. I frequently approach his day care teachers for helping complete his Home assignments when i know will be late from work. Or if i have to rush in morning and no time for cleaning and tidying him up for the school, his day care teacher is kind enough to handle this. I must say,  i sometime just have to pick him up from bead and directly put him in the car while he is still sleeping.. that definitely cuts down my morning rush stress.. (yes, i can avoid if am an early waker- but sometimes..ok..most often, i do sleep late, i am just not an early waker..i am working on it :) ).

Wondering how this will maximize my quality time - well its simple! rushing to office early on time means leaving on time :)


2) MOMMY - SON TIME  during commute to and from home and Daycare

Its a hardly 10 mins drive but i intentionally take the longer route and even a halt for some snack grabbing on the go just to talk to my son about his day at the school and daycare.. however exhausted i am, this this totally de-stresses me plus my kid is relaxed in the car seat - no gaming consoles in hand so he's attentive as well as talking  about whats during the day. i have observed, the most crucial and important conversation which has happened, is during this time..

I am not a strict religious or spiritual follower nor i have been forceful about it on my son but i make sure, i tell him something about superior almighty GOD and his miracles and how HE is with us and watching over us..I have my kid undivided attention to this and  he started asking me questions so i can make out he is curious about to know more about our old religious stories..

3) Hugs and Kisses and lots of Hugs and Kisses.

Morning hug, leaving at at daycare goodbye hug, coming back to pick up hug, sleeping hug and many hugs in between ... enough to let him know, we love him a lot and he matters to us!

I also like to surprise him sometimes by putting lil notes in his school snack box especially when there are his tests and he feels a little nervous (so young still feels the pressure!), i draw a smiley face and scribble 'All the best' 'Mama loves u' 'No Problem' etc on the Tissue napkin and place in the snack box ..when we meet in evening, i do enquire if he got my lil message and and he says he likes it and his friends read them as well...


4) Opinion matters!

Involve him and listen to his choices and opinions.. I may have my menu charted for the school snacks box and dinner.. but it does not have to be a hard fast 'We are going to eat only what mommy has written ' rule..

if he has had something heavy at daycare or we had some snacks on way, then i make sure i don't cook heavy and check with him if he prefers a lighter alternative which also gives me a lot of free time. rather than cooking long Indian recipes (which i have already tweaked to reduce time, thanks to Jamie Oliver 15 minute meals and my all time fav Nigella lawson).

I also check with him if he would like something different in his snack box during our way home the previous day and then he has his stories to tell how his friends like what i had given earlier and how they ask him to repeat... Its just so fascinating to hear him talk about his and his friends lil talks.

Sometimes when i am late back, i prefer a take away rather than rushing in to the kitchen exhausted. i make sure, i order from restaurants i trust the quality of food. since mostly its India non-veg like tandoori, tikkas and fresh they are not loaded with the harmful preservatives or anything unhealthy.. If i wanna cut cost, i may simply make rice and order only curries.. So i just wanna tell mommies, its OK to have a take-aways and no need to feel guilty,


5) Buying time

Most important for all mommies here reading this.. I came across this when i was reading some article on may be how to save money..i don't remember the article but this phrase has stuck to me...The most important investment i can do is on time..I buy time..


I was doing this from long by some ways but never knew this had a name to it.. I am a total hater of going grocery shopping, be it market where there is too much of crowd or the shopping mall where there are long queues. i never had the patience and always felt as a waste of time.. and then the phase of online grocery shopping sites and app came....it was like a prayer was answered :)

So i order my planned weekly and even emergency groceries online (kudos to their 3 hr delivery service options available) ..no more parking hassles and fees..just sit besides your kid and shop on your app.

Many women may feel, i am wasting money, its snobbish, or the price is too high on app sites so they prefer going to the market and fetching their veggies.. But trust me guys, the price is hardly ..hardly any difference...Yes probably there may be a further discounts not displayed on app sites, but i will prefer to utilize that time spending at home or out with family and passing that extra saving i may get......for me a couple of rupees extra spending to be with my family is worth it, so why not if i can afford it. So i suggest, order cut veggies sometimes, pass that buy 1 get 1 offer, buy your time if you can afford..Don't waste your time hunting deals..  its not worth..

These are above some tips i wanted to share wit you, i follow to maximize my time with family. These are the ones i follow because they totally suit my current lifestyle, some of these tips may help you, some may not and you may have your own. so i would really love to listen from you guys! Let me know your tips and if you have any more suggestions for me let me know...

Thank you for reading ! Do visit back for more..

Enjoy a happy family time! :)

back after a break………

 

i am back to my blog…

Giveaway hosted by Indian Vanity Case

One of my Fav beauty blogger, Cynthia Z from Indian Vanity Case is hosting a give away on her blog. 

Just click the link http://www.indianvanitycase.com/2012/04/giveaway-win-too-faced-smokey-eye.html?showComment=1334417516932#c7827372805173550114 to enter the giveaway and win an amazing Too Faced Smokey Eye Palette!

Its so amazing! i have also participated in this giveaway..

i have never won anything before and so much looking forward to this .. i am not a cosmetics person but i love the shades and def want to try one..

This giveaway ends on 05/05  and that's my b'day.....That would be the best gift i can have...keeping my finger crossed till then...

so guys hurry up and follow the instructions to be fulfilled for this giveaway..who knows, u can be the lucky one...

if u win, share the prize with me bcoz i said u abt it , right? he he ..just kidding..

also do not forget to chk out her site..its amazing ..i happened to get know by chance but iam already hooked on to it..very simple and sweet blog..click here to go to the blog..

keep coming back for more..

Beauty Tip_How to revive your dried Gel Liner

Hello friends..am back to blogging again after a short break..i enjoy blogging and have so many things to blog but i find it very difficult to take time out for after i get back from work. even week offs are busy for a mom..

so here i have sneaked in a teeny weeny time and sharing with you one awesome tip i came across while reading though few blogs..(I love READING blogs!)

How to revive a dried up gel eyeliner..i know gel eyeliners are amazing but expensive..also they have the tendency to get dried up easily and you dont even feel like throwing it away after paying so much for it..i myself use a L'oreal Gel eyeliner and no doubt its good but definitely over priced so i cant even think what would i do if it ever dries up..Thank God, i chanced upon this very inexpensive idea or may be we can call it a home remedy..

You need:

Dried up gel eyeliner

Vaseline (yep! that why i called a hom remedy..almost all Indian homes have a vaseline small bottle /lip balm throughout the year)

Sharing the pics and u can easily get the idea... (courtesy blogger sunaa: itzrainingbeauty.blogspot.in)

Fantabulous! isn't it..Now i really don't have to worry if ever it happens! Thanks sunaa..





A detailed step by step guide.. 







Luv..i will share more tips..do keep visiting.

Weight loss goal planning..

I will be blogging today about my weight loss journey till date since i started 4 months back and further plans...This blog is going to be a bit longer as i would brief you about the past journey and I hope u find it useful and something to take away if you are also looking to achieve your weight loss goals and stay fit..i had been writing a separate blog about my weight loss a few months back and you can find it here.

To begin with, I am a 5 feet tall full time (9 a.m to 6 p.m) working woman in my early thirtees, a mom to 4 yo son. My job is completely sedentary and may be i get up only to go to canteen or to the loo..

Before i was married,  i weighed 47.0 kgs (Normal BMI) sometimes going max up to 50 kgs (still normal BMI). The weight stated rising after i had a baby (common post pregnancy problem u may say!) but i do not blame my pregnancy for this at all..the culprit is...my lifestyle..It’s a purely lifestyle problem…..

I tried many fad diets but nothing worked for me..i even went to the extreme of starving myself only to feel lethargic and grumpy and cud not afford that when I am working ..i need the energy to work in office ..

My weight details / journey month wise :

September 2011:  59.0 kgs

October 2011 (mid): 56.3 kgs

October 2011 (end): 53.0 kgs

November 2011: 52.0 kgs (achieved 1^st weight loss target. But slow progress…irregular jogging habits)

December 2011: 51.0 kgs (slow progress, completely left my morning  and evening jog. Weight loss was due to high metabolism)

January  2012: 51.7 kgs (Completely no jogging and exercise. Back to irregular and unhealthy eating habits)

February 2012 (second week): 52.0 kgs (Now determined to lower this weight and get going to achieve my 2^nd weight loss target)

My weight loss Target:

1^st target: 52.0 kgs (from 59.0 kgs) – achieved on November 2011 in 2 months

2^nd target: 47.0 kgs (my BMI target is 20.0, still in normal range) further 5 kgs down

3^rd Target: Weight maintenance to 47.0 kgs throughout 2012.

Goal setting for weight loss: (since we are already in second week)

7^th Feb 2012: 114.4 lbs

14^th Feb 2012: 113.0 lbs

21^st Feb 2012: 111.5 lbs

28^th Feb 2012: 110.0 lbs

6^th March: 108.5 lbs

13^th March: 107.5 lbs

20^th March: 106.0 lbs

27^th March: 104.5 lbs

3^rd April: 103.0 lbs

(If I stick to these small targets, I can achieve my goal within two month’s time from now…sounds good…but I sincerely hope...It’s equally good to follow...and i know only exercise cannot achieve this alone..i have to keep my calorie intake strictly under control and supervision..

Earlier I used to follow my calories intake religiously along with exercise. I used the programme available here to monitor my daily calorie intake. This site had list of thousands of foods and their calories, most surprisingly, it has many Indian foods listed too which is very rarely available in other sites.

My current weight is 52 kgs or 114.4 lbs. I have calculated my daily calorie maintenance level from here which is 1587 calories per day if I have to maintain my current weight.

I have also calculated how much calories I need to consume to lose 1.5 lbs per week from here and here which comes to 837 calories per day. I have checked the box as sedentary. So if I start exercising too, I can eat much over 837 calories and still lose weight as calories burned during exercise are unaccounted for.

For this whole plan to work, I need to strictly stick to the schedule and religiously follow things which will not throw me off track...I will also be including weight training in the exercise routine…I had been easily able to shed off excess pounds earlier and still feel ca do it.. I need God’s and everyone’s support.. Whatever be the end results, i will be honestly updating every week on Wednesday my weight loss regimen I followed and my weight of the week  for you to read on..

Some of the few changes I did to get myself 15 lbs lighter earlier:

1) Getting up early in the morning at 6.00 am and going for a jog (there is a joggers park near vicinity where i go..) for an hour..and come back by 7-7.30 as i have to get my kid ready for school and i have to rush to office

2) Tea substituted with green tea
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3) Lunch box is now one box of salads, one box for greens like cooked spinach or methi/fenugreek  or any lentils and chapati (occasionally). Sometimes i skip chapati. A glass of buttermilk as morning snack so i dont fill myself during lunch. evening snack is orange or apple..

4) I come back at 6.00 from office post that at 6.30 i leave for a walk at the nearby park for about an hour..

5) Comeback by 7-7.15 pm and work on getting dinner ready.. i do not have any special diet meals but whatever i cook for other i have the same but the only difference is half the portion i used to have earlier..i do sometimes overindulge during particular occasions and feel guilty later so I am working on my will power..

6) i have started counting my calories and am maintaining a calorie tracker in my mobile appln provided by this website and jot down everything i eat and try to not exceed the weight loss goal calorie..

SO guys, ALL THE BEST TO ME! I may go for a walk today evening after I am back from office…

Menu Plan of the week

SO, finally its the Menu Plan day of the week..(i had to post this blog on Saturday as per my blog activity for the day, but due to some issues and unavoidable reasons, i was not able to do it....my apologies..)

I am having a veg menu week today.. as me and both my hubby have a lil stomach upset so cant have the heavy non veg food..

Sunday: Egg Pulav

Monday: Red Lentils

Tuesday: White peas curry  + Potato cutlets combo

Wednesday: Noodles -veg

Thursday: steaming idlis with sambhar (yummy!)

Friday: Rajma curry

Saturday: Spinach-Red lentil rice with soya cutlets 

Feeling depressed? steps to overcome it...

had been feeling depressed lately...on professional front.. had few petty issues going on in the work front which really made me depressed and also had to postpone my blog writing..(i am a very sensitive person and react to things very easily..)


During this, i read some articles on how to get over your depression and really found some few simple but amazing tricks which has worked wonders for me and was able to relieve my negative thoughts..so if you are feeling depressed lately over any issues my be, read on , this article is just right for you.  i had read this in one of the stress management articles and am sharing it with you..you can try any or multiples of this..and see for yourself how wonderful it is..

·         Get a pet! 

·         Take a friend’s dog for a walk

·         Try gardening - very relaxing

·         Write a weekly timetable (daily list rest/activity/work etc…)

·         Get outside and walk daily (great way to get an endorphin boost)

·         Do a daily crossword

·         Paint (by numbers or freestyle)

·         See friends weekly (gets you out of your own shell)

·         Stick post-it notes with positive quotes on your bathroom mirror

·         Blitz old clothes/clutter and head to a charity shop & have a potter round

·         Be open to medication (5 antidepressants failed and the 6^th worked!)

·         Find a relaxation/exercise class (easier to be motivated in company)

·         Visit an elderly/ill relative (it can help a great deal to focus on others)

·         Browse the self-help section at your local library or book shop

·         Arrange to meet a friend for coffee/walk

·         Avoid recreational drugs & alcohol (masks and exasperates depression)

·         Eat ‘good mood’ foods e.g. bananas, fish, broccoli, seeds

·         Write poetry (very cathartic!)

·         Wear clothes that boost your self-confidence (even when all you feel like wearing  trackers)

·         Give yourself permission to say ‘No’ to people (exhaustion is not helpful)

·         Rent some comedy dvds/buy online

·         Go out to the cinema

·         Sell your old books/dvds on amazon (use the money to spoil yourself)

·         Try a multivitamin/omega 3 supplement

·         Use a Lightbox on winter days (a real help-makes winter bearable)

·         Find a CBT therapist or learn CBT skills (recommend CBT for dummies)

·         Read ‘Depressive Illness: The curse of the strong’ by Dr. Tim Cantopher - useful for dispelling myths about the illness…

·         List activities you enjoyed before becoming ill and reintroduce them

·         Buy aromatherapy oils and enjoy a soothing bath

·         If your depression is mild, ask your GP about St. John’s Wort

·         Write a letter/card to an old friend

·         Head to a garden centre and wander round; stop for a coffee

·         Subscribe to online daily motivational quotes (get sent to your email)

·         Join an internet support group (or see if you have a local mind group)

·         Enrol on an adult learning course or perhaps an online course

·         Snap an elastic band around your wrist when your mind starts ruminating

·         þ      When you feel overwhelmed write in big letters every emotion you’re experiencing

·         Play loud, upbeat music and sing along at home/in your car

·         Avoid large social events (especially in the early stages)

·         Try to postpone making any major, life-changing decisions until you are stronger again

·         Learn to listen to the messsages your body is giving you (if you feel tired, don’t be ashamed to rest)

·         Try to get into doing jigsaws (they use both sides of the brain - a great means of distraction)

·         Find a voluntary job (if you feel up to it)

·         Keep a memo card with uplifting quotes/poems with you

·         Write a letter to someone who has hurt you, then burn it

·         Go outside and listen to the birds (sounds corny but very relaxing!)

·         Go with a friend to get a manicure or massage (pamper yourself!)

·         Chat with old friends or make new friends online

·         Create your own website or start an online blog

·         Call a crisis/helpline and talk to someone anonymously

·         Write a letter to God (or perhaps to yourself in the future)

·         Phone a relative or old friend that you haven’t heard from in a while

·         Go to the park and feed the ducks (or find a nice place to just sit and people watch)

·         Make a scrapbook for photos and places you’ve visited

·         Write about what you’ve done in a diary (useful to look back on& see how far you’ve come)

·         Dig out your favourite book and have a good read

·         Write 10 things you have achieved (eg school, college, uni, jobs) and read it often

·         Make a list of 10 things you would like to do before you die (also research how to do them)

·         Go and see a play or musical with a friend

·         Memorise the words to a song you like (or poem)

·         Plan a holiday, go to the travel agents and get some brochures to look at

·         Find an activity you really enjoy (swimming? Aerobics? Tennis?)

·         Go to a craft shop and choose something fun to try (e.g. glass painting)

·         Buy a simple cake-mix and bake some cakes/muffins for a snack

·         Get a punch-bag and let your anger, frustration and pain out (hitting duvet/pillows also helps)

·         Make a ‘crisis’ list of people you can call when you’re in a bad space (keep it to hand e.g. by the phone/on a notice board)

·         Look at houses for sale in your area (living in Guernsey, looking at all the million+ houses is quite fun!)

·         Go on facebook and look at your friends’ photo albums.

·         Play computer games (e.g. spider solitaire, minesweeper) 

do keep coming back for more..do like me if you like my blog..

Top 15 Ways to Save

As a pert of blogging, i do read other blogs and then there are few blogs which have such beautiful articles that you just want to read over and share it..infact this inspired me to start my own blog so i could get to read and share and connect as well to all the beautiful blogs..and then i can have all these blogs collective together in one place to read over them again..

i recently came across one such good blogger mrsascouponorganizer. you can find the blog here . One fine artcle, i came acrooss about saving and iam reproducing the same here to read on and enjoy!

Top 15 Ways to Save

1. Don’t pay interest. Most of us must for a house. But even this can be minimized. Debt service is money down the drain.

2. Live in a house that meets your needs but don’t get carried away. Keep it neat and attractive and you’ll be satisfied.

3. Drive a car that is economical, reliable, and safe, but affordable. After a house, this is one of our major expenses. Don’t get lured in to a big payment.

4. Develop a budget whichs keeps you living within your means and helps you achieve your financial and lifestyle goals.

5. Don’t spend on a credit card unless you can pay it off monthly. No debt service.

6. Plan shopping trips based on your budget. Follow your shopping list to avoid impulse buying.

7. Obtain coupons for anticipated purchases.

8. Organize your coupons in a true organizer where you can see all coupons at once. This way, you don’t miss using a coupon, and they don’t expire. (I really love coupon organizers. They are one of the purchases that return far more than their cost)

9. Invest money wisely and in diverse ways. Interest coming to you is a good thing. Have a year’s supply of savings, if possible. Otherwise, crisis could force you in to debt.

10. Stay healthy. Those who don’t pay a small price daily for health will one day pay a great price.

11. Don’t buy something just because it is on sale. Determine if you will use it and if it fits your lifestyle, health, and happiness goals.

12. Buy generic when feasible.

13. Buy in bulk.

14. Buy and eat bulk, whole grains and legumes.

15. Plant a garden and eat from your harvest. Preserve that which you can.

Don’t buy what you don’t need. Take a deep look at yourself. Do you buy to mood alter? Living within one’s means provides a peace greater than the excitement of a purchase if it leaves you with the stress of debt. This list could be much longer. It was an exercise for me to see what I could think of off the top of my head.

Hope you find this interesting and something to think over...

Just a thot_are we really celebrating Ganesha or making a mockery of HIM?

So finally, Ganesha is arriving, after a year long wait! It is such a rich festival for us hindus..and i literally mean the word "RICH" here..

In a few days, we will be reading in newspapers, so and so affluent person had offered so many thousands of rupees as offerings, sometimes even running in to lacs and some take a step ahead and offer Gold and even diamonds and we read all about them in the paper. What i do not understand is what are this people trying to prove? are they trying to show their love towards HIM by doing this? do they really think, god will be please with all the money and gold they offered? are they humanising HIM?

corruption had influenced us in such an extent that is has formed a new DNA sequence in our system and become a part of our genes.. so what other justifiable explanation can be given than this that whatever material things pleases us will please God too. We also will be reading about many other people and how their wishes were granted by HIM and to thank him they are offering these wealth...seriously, do you feel HE requires your money and Gold in return of HIS blessings and do you think HE does not have it so you are giving it to him..

Can anyone explain me why we need to give money to GOD! why you forget He has only given you this and you thank him by offering him HIS money back? Sometimes my thinking runs a little wild (ok, fine, many times), now me thinking, If God were human and he had blessed you with all the money and you thank him with same money he had offered you, HE would have laughed and said "If i wanted this, i would have kept it with myself" and after more laughs (remember HE does not get angry, even in his human form) "meri cheez mujhe hi wapas karte ho". lolz...what is it with us?

Why cant we donate these money who actually requires them like the orphanages, old age institutions or even the poor destitute sitting outside in the rains if you really want to thank HIM? Pass his blessings forward with your deeds and help towards others and not backward and please do not make a mockery of HIM...and did i mention, even few make money garlands and make HIM wear it throughout...Ridiculous, Ridiculous, Ridiculous! my god what are you thinking? when there is so much of misery, should HE smile for your garlands?...

Wonder now as anna has won, will there be no more corruption? so what about VIP passes for these little peek of the GOD, are these not a type of corruption? or are we just looking at the bigger pictures and invariably ignore the little one's....since they are no more corruption but our culture itself..